Is Your Relationship Suffering from Any of the Following?
Parent/Child Dynamic
One of you is "the responsible one" and the other is "always messing up."
Neglect
Someone feels unloved, ignored, or like their own needs do not matter in the relationship.
Chore Wars
Frequent arguments over how you divide the chores for your household/family
Impulsivity
Spending money without mutual agreement, affairs, rude comments
Addiction
Addiction to the phone, video games, food, sex, or substances
Negativity
Lots of criticism, bad moods, problems adding up and not getting resolved
All couples have challenges. ADHD just adds some extra ones.
The person with ADHD often feels overwhelmed, stressed, and like they can never do anything right.
The partner of the person with ADHD often feels lonely, angry, and exasperated.
If you have tried couples therapy or relationship coaching before and found it unhelpful, this might be why. ADHD causes some unique dynamics in a relationship when the ADHD is untreated, undertreated, or discovered later in life.
A lot of the typical recommendations won’t help much, if the ADHD (and the non-ADHD partner’s response to the ADHD) is not being addressed. Traditional couples therapy can even make relationship problems worse in some cases.
A Little Bit About My Approach
Education
We will take time discussing how ADHD brains work, as well as the common impacts of ADHD on a relationship. This is meant to help both parties understand what has contributed to your situation so that you can work to forgive yourself and each other for things you could not help doing.
Topics Include
- ADHD nervous systems
- Common behaviors of people with ADHD and partners
- Common coping strategies of people with ADHD & partners
- Approaches to support
Healing the Past & Planning the Future
I will create a safe space for the relationship where both parties can be honest with each other. Open communication is vital for healthy relationships, and defensiveness is a common barrier. Let's move forward together by being intentional about how you want your relationship to look.
Topics May Include
- Rituals to strengthen the bond
- Communication skills
- Attachment needs
- Creative Problem-Solving
What qualifies me to do this work?
A Little About Me
I am a Clinical Social Worker with a background in supporting couples using tools from Gottman Method, Imago, and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. I have worked with ADHD adults and their partners at various points in my career. I have completed extra education on Adult ADHD-Focused Couples Therapy.
I also have ADHD, and am married to someone with ADHD.
Let's get to work!
I’d love to support healing, growth and rebalancing of your partnership. Contact me with questions, or you can click the button below to jump right to scheduling!
